in the before stages

you can get by on being polite in a strange new place. anaesthetized with the novelty, which lets you not have to connect, only be regarded favourably, and that really is unchallenged because nobody is looking too hard, or asking normal from you. when you only have to deliver the superficial, it saves itself from being insulting because you are so consumed by the strangeness, that your behaviour as a stranger in the place serves all interests quite adequately. it is matter of time before someone gets too interested.